Sunday Mail (Qld) 7 September 2008: A relationship psychologist wrote an article which stated that the reasons for infidelity were numerous. The psychologist stated that they personally never believed that monogamy for men was "natural", and unless he had made a decision to commit, then he's available. The article further states that women are the seductress, and being sexy enough to get another woman's "property" is powerful proof of her seduction. The male may feel like a saviour, a protector and needed by the other woman.But this is one of the oldest manipulations in the book. When the man decides to get out of the extramarital relationship, he goes from being "Superman" to just another bastard.

Sunday Mail (Qld) 17 August 2008: A new trend emerging has couples signing pre-nuptial agreements to protect their assets and establish rules about lifestyles. One in three marriages are ending in divorce, so couples are becoming more realistic about their relationship prospects. Some of the rules being drawn up in the pre-nups include domestic duties, social activities and punishments for infidelity. Some couples are also defining what they believe amounts to infidelity within a relationship. Traditionally pre-nups had been taken out by celebrities or the very wealthy, but now many couples are starting to get their 'rules' outlined in detailed and binding legal agreements.

Sunday Mail (Qld) 17th August 2008: I read an article which left me speechless. A relationship psychologist wrote about a 'case' which involved the husband having an affair. She stated that only 1% of him was there for the marriage, and 99% was in agony of never seeing his 'affair partner' again. He apparently was in counselling trying to keep the marriage together for reasons the counsellor thought were part family, part history and part economics. The counsellor's advice to the wife was that if she wanted her marriage back, then the husband had all the power and that the wife was 'on trial' as she was being compared to the 'affair partner'. The wife was advised that the more she berated her husband, poured out her agonised heart and attempted to make him feel guilty, then the more uncomfortable the husband would be. The counsellor further advised the wife that if she wanted her husband back and to keep him, she would have to stay 'well-behaved' and understand that she'd be living with a man who is grieving for another woman. In time his feelings for the 'affair partner' will fade, and for whatever reason he has for staying with the wife, his love will eventually return for her.

I wonder how many other wives out there are staying 'well-bahaved' after their husbands committed infidelity. Not many I imagine.

Sunday Mail (QLD) 22nd June 2008: An article printed on this day stated that some wealthy wives, fed up with their workaholic husbands, are employing private investigators to go through their spouses corporate and personal affairs. A leading Brisbane lawyer stated that they often had female clients see them before a separation because they were worried that their husband may be hiding money out of spite. A forensic accountant also stated that some husbands have been caught out keepng a second set of books to hide spending from their wives. The article goes on to state that 66% of Australian marriages now end in divorce. This appears to be an emerging trend.

We often have wives who are planning to leave their husbands, contact us so we can conduct property and corporation searches. Some wives are finding out about assets that their husbands have acquired, without their knowledge. They gather this information together first before leaving their husbands, preventing him from possibly hiding assets after they have been told by their wives, that they are leaving. Wives are also having their husbands put under surveillance leading up to the separation, to gather evidence of any suspected infidelity.

I read an interesting article in the Sunday Mail (QLD) 8th June 2008. It mentioned a new trend emerging dubbed the "non-divorce" where married and defacto couples are living together like passionless room-mates rather than spouses, sometimes even openly dating other people. Ths is because they can't afford to actually leave each other. It states that some couples stay in the marriage for the convenience of sharing the bills. If a woman has children and she leaves her husband, she suddenly becomes the breadwinner. When faced with this, it appears that some women will often decide to stay in the relationship because if she left, she would have no viable means of support. This is a very scary proposition, and one that requires deep thought before acting on. If a woman found out that her husband had committed infidelity, I wonder if that would make it harder for her to stay in the 'passionless room-mate' existence, than if the marriage had just started to sour on its own.