Sunday Mail (Qld) 17th August 2008: I read an article which left me speechless. A relationship psychologist wrote about a 'case' which involved the husband having an affair. She stated that only 1% of him was there for the marriage, and 99% was in agony of never seeing his 'affair partner' again. He apparently was in counselling trying to keep the marriage together for reasons the counsellor thought were part family, part history and part economics. The counsellor's advice to the wife was that if she wanted her marriage back, then the husband had all the power and that the wife was 'on trial' as she was being compared to the 'affair partner'. The wife was advised that the more she berated her husband, poured out her agonised heart and attempted to make him feel guilty, then the more uncomfortable the husband would be. The counsellor further advised the wife that if she wanted her husband back and to keep him, she would have to stay 'well-behaved' and understand that she'd be living with a man who is grieving for another woman. In time his feelings for the 'affair partner' will fade, and for whatever reason he has for staying with the wife, his love will eventually return for her.

I wonder how many other wives out there are staying 'well-bahaved' after their husbands committed infidelity. Not many I imagine.