In October's issue of Cosmopolitan Magazine, it raises some very interesting issues. What exactly constitutes infidelity? It's fascinating to see what actions people perceive are a 'maybe' and what actions are strictly a 'yes' or 'no'.

I'll look at a couple of the topics:

Firstly, the strip club. The verdict was 'maybe' this is considered infidelity if someone's partner visited a strip club. It goes on to say that if it was a once off and he was honest about it, then no it's not infidelity. But if it was a regular occurrence and he was not being honest about it, then yes it was infidelity.

Men visit strip clubs and get lap dances for a variety of reasons. Some are for the typical bucks night, or wild boys out. Most of these times, the guys are so drunk, that they don't even really know where they are or what they doing. It's all a blur and they feed off each others confidence and enthusiasm.

But the men who visit strip clubs regularly, are there for totally different reasons. From my experience, they are either 'lacking' sexual intimacy at home, feel the need to have some sort of 'power' over women because in their regular day-to-day life a woman or women seem to overpower him, or it's just a plain sexual perversion.

If you find your partner is visiting strip clubs, you need to look at the possible reasons why he is doing this and discuss it with him. Confronting him outright with it will probably just inflame the situation. Professional help is certainly recommended in this instance.

Secondly, flirty emails and texts. The verdict was 'yes' this is considered infidelity. It states that about 43% of Australians admit to using email to flirt. Now this is a very interesting area of infidelity. It's considered a 'safe' way to 'have an affair'. This type of affair is not physical - it's emotionally driven. It's like when people get onto chat rooms and can pick their own identity and safely type away. They can be very honest and provocative with their thoughts safe in the knowledge that it 'isn't real'. With emailing and texting, because they can't see the other person, people can become a lot more courageous with their words. How many times have you emailed or text something, hit send, then thought 'oh shit'.....

But it's addictive and this is far becoming the most popular way of having an 'affair'.