Weekend Courier Mail (5-6 September):

An article discusses the demise of NSW Minister John Della Bosca because he had an affair.

No one is immune from this disease called 'infidelity'. It affects people from all walks of life. Mr & Mrs Smith down the suburban street, the high flying corporates, the celebrities and politicians. If it's so prevalent, why does it happen & no-one understand why? Mr Della Bosca obviously just wanted a 'bit on the side', but this can become dangerous if the other participating party wants more - as was the case in this instance.

Affairs are not just black and white. There are always grey areas. Every circumstance has two sides and unless you know both sides of the story, no-one can throw arrows. When people have affairs, are they just simply lacking something at home? Sexual intimacy, emotional connection or just time together? Is it the thrill of bedding someone without getting caught? Is it the fact that you are getting a little bit older, and still need to feel valued and appreciated in a sexual way?

If you feel any of the above, and don't feel that you are receiving it at home, is there a safe and fair way to gain these feelings without hurting anyone?