Dr Holmes explains that women are far better at handling technology such as emails, texts and social networking sites. They are also more likely to create a network of friends, who know about the affair, and can cover for them. Men on the other hand, can often be careless and leave their mobile phones lying around, giving their partners a chance to check up on them.

Dr Holmes states that women are better liars because they’re more psychologically sophisticated. They can make plans and have strategies, while men are more impulsive.

From my experience conducting Infidelity Investigations, I agree with Dr Holmes. I have found it far easier to investigate and catch out a cheating husband than a cheating wife. Cheating men always seem to leave a trail of evidence behind them. They can often be careless in covering their tracks, and their impulsiveness is what inevitably leads to their exposure.

As reported in the Sunday Mail (July 18), a married couple discussed how spending time apart, saved their marriage. After living together for a decade, they found the ‘daily life’ of co-habitation was starting to cause frequent arguments between them. They tried couples therapy, but found it didn’t help them deal with their incompatibilities. They agreed that they loved each other too much to separate, so they decided to take a break away from each other.

Their break lasted 15 months. During their nights apart, they would chat & play online board games. They stopped arguing and learnt to appreciate each other more. But the reality of the double costs of living brought their break to an end, and they moved back in with each other. The couple ended up clearing out the attic of their house as an extra space, as they found their initial irritations started to return.

Many couples are living part-time marriages without even realising it. With a majority of both partners now out in the work force due to troubled financial times, relationships are under strain because they don’t see enough of each other. Consistent separation from each other can be frustrating which could lead to loneliness, sexual frustration and the temptation of affairs.

If you need to spend more time apart to stay together, is this just the beginning to an end?

Each time we trust and love someone, and someone else breaches that trust, it feels like a little piece of us dies. Most of us can regenerate and heal to love again. But what if it happens again? And again? Can we reach a point below 25% capacity so that it becomes impossible to ever fully heal again?

Our human immune system is a system of biological structures and processes within an organism that protects against disease by identifying and killing pathogens and tumor cells. Can our hearts build up an immune system to prevent being hurt again? Being hurt by Infidelity is a disease of the heart.

Is it possible to reach a point that you can no longer trust again?

What is interesting was how Laura dealt with it. Instead of getting angry, she offered him some distance in their relationship. This would have been an extremely difficult decision for her to make. Laura exposes her true inner strength, courage and self confidence by giving her husband, the man she loved, his space to work through his own inner turmoils.

Many marriages can hit a critical point, usually after years of unexplored unhappiness and difficulties. It is at this point where marriages either fall apart or infidelity provides one of the partners an ‘escape’ from their marriage problems.

When asked, Laura’s husband stated that he was not having an affair during their emotional distance. She chose to believe him. She admits that there were times that she thought about going through his pockets and phones, but decided that she didn’t want to add suspicion to their current emotional problems.

During their time apart, although still living together under one roof, Laura states that she used the time to rediscover her own happiness. She started to write, spent time with her children, gardened, cooked and rode her horse. Her husband spent many hours away at his friend’s fishing lodge and took long periods of time away from the family home.

Laura states that the turning point came when a serious crisis in her husband’s family, brought him back to her. He admitted that he felt he had failed his career and had lost his sense of pride and belief that he could provide for his family. It was during this crisis period that he realised that relationships are what really count. Their relationship is now stronger and Laura believes it’s because they have been happy and unhappy together, and is important to know how to do both.

I wonder how many marriages that are suffering, would benefit from this type of ‘distance therapy’. Would it make or break most marriages? If this option was explored first, could infidelity be prevented? Or would the time apart, and not being accountable to where they have been, create a dangerous ground where infidelity could breed.

They say that distance makes the heart grow fonder, but it can also make a heart grow cold.

The founder of this web site, Noel Biderman, is a married man with children, who believes that, having affairs keeps marriages together. I never thought that I would actually ever put those words together in one sentence. But there you have it.

Biderman is a business man, and while you can respect his commercial wit & intelligence, no one can ignore his complete lack of ethics.

Biderman has been reported to state that people are going to have affairs anyway, and rather than having to lie on dating sites about their true relationship status, why not just set up a web site to help them be honest about their situation. Well Biderman, you’re right. Lots of people do have affairs. They have for many years, and they will continue to do so. But offering a service to assist in this modern cultural breakdown, only serves to escalate an issue that is rife with severe ramifications.

Biderman’s service can be likened to that of being a drug dealer (minus the legal elements). A drug dealer sells the drug, takes the money and walks away with no further thought about that person’s future repercussions. Biderman found the demand was there for affairs, so he set up a business to provide a service that people could partake in. He offers them the service, takes their money, all with total disregard to the future consequences that lays ahead for that person.

What is most interesting is when Biderman was asked how he would feel about his own wife having an affair, he responded that he would be emotionally hurt beyond belief. This begs the question, how can he so actively & passionately promote a service or product that he himself doesn’t even believe in?

Marriage is an agreement that two people make, to commit to each other at the exclusion of all others. Not all marriages last forever. If your marriage is developing problems, and you wish to try and repair it, you keep your lines of communication open and try all avenues of counselling. If that fails, then you can discuss separation after careful consideration. Having an affair is not the answer. Affairs are a sexual band-aid that people use, who irresponsibly refuse to tackle their marriage problems in a mature and respectful manner.

The internet is rife with scammers, frauds & perverts. Last year alone, the ACCC received 427 complaints about romance-related scams, with victims losing more than $2 million. The most common types of scams are financial, identify theft & attempts to secure a visa via marriage. But what about your emotional safety?

People who are truly looking for a partner via the internet, invest their emotions and time into developing a potential relationship. But it has been reported that almost a 1/3 of men on dating sites are actually married. The internet is a haven for predators and anti-social people who develop an identity to suit their intentions.

Here are some tips to safe dating. To start with, NEVER give out personal information about yourself over the internet and keep copies of all emails between you and your new 'partner'. If your partner has only disclosed one photo of themselves, ask for more and make sure they're recent photos. Take note of the background in the photos. Do they reflect what they've described about themselves and their situation? You can tell alot about someone by the surroundings they're in.

When you've reached the stage of setting up your first date, ALWAYS tell a trusted friend where you're meeting and the time. Get your friend to ring you about 15 minutes into the date to check on you. If you need to get out for what ever reason, have a code word ready to give your friend so they can assist you on giving you a reason to leave. Even better is to have a friend come along with you on your date, to sit in the background unnoticed.

When you've finished your date, be very aware of being followed home. Look behind you constantly for a suspicous car that always happens to be behind you. If you do notice a suspicious car and are concerned, drive straight to a populated area like a service station or a police station. If you can, get the registration number and notify the Police.

Single mothers need to be especially careful. Child predators don't just approach children directly, they also try to get access to children through singe mothers. Pay attention to these signs during the dating stages:

1. Watch for adults who seem to be particularly good at getting right in there with your children, acting like a kid, and "talking their language." This could be a sign that an adult is trying to fit into the children's world and make them extremely comfortable with his company.

2. Watch out for adults who seem to go out of their way to touch children, especially in inappropriate ways. many pedophiles attracted to young boys and girls begin their "seduction" by touching the child in very specific ways. For example, they will offer to help a child tuck in his or her shirt, only their hands will go unnecessarily deep into the child's pants or skirt.

3. Besides sly touching, pedophiles will often single a child out for special flattery or attention. Be aware of adults who make a lot of eye contact with the child or even overtly stare at them, especially at the genital area. Also, take note if an adult buys your child special gifts or gives them money. Pedophiles who "flirt" with children are telling a child "you're special."

4. Watch for adults whose homes seem like a kid's playground. Pedophiles often fill their homes with toys, video games, bikes and other things that children love. An adult who uses toys and recreation to attract children to his home is saying, "I'm just like you and I want to be your best friend."

5. If someone regularly offers to give your child rides, take your child on outings, baby-sit while you take a break, or help the child with homework, he's effectively saying, "Relax, trust me, I'm here to help. I'm just an all-around great guy who loves kids and I want you to see me as the good guy in your life." This is an especially common ploy used on single mothers, who will see this helpful person as a godsend. But the molester is not motivated to be helpful, he is motivated to appear to be helpful and to be seen as a great guy. Like all molesters they live a life of pretense, a life of lies. If something seems too good to be true, it probably is.

6. If you find any of these "secret language" signs fit a particular situation in your life, you may have a problem that you need to look into right away, but you must not overreact. Proceed very carefully. The idea here is for you to remove the prey (your child) from the potential predator, not create a scene.

You should not, for any reason, confront the predator. This is not a "call to arms," but rather a means of avoiding problems. Be extremely careful not to make accusations without absolute proof and then ONLY with the help of law enforcement and the appropriate social services. The problems that could develop if you don't first contact proper authorities could be critical.

I wish you a happy & successful dating experience.

* Self Blame

* Nausea

* Insomnia

* Loss of Appetite

* Increase Smoking

* Excess Alcohol Consumption

* Chest Pains

* Loneliness

* Sudden Outburst of Crying

* Headaches

If you suffer from any of the above and have been the victim of a cheating partner, NEVER blame yourself. Do not let other person affect your health, or emotional wellbeing.

If the above symptoms persist, seek solace that you WILL one day, meet someone who will treat you like you deserve.

Single men may visit prostitutes because they may see it easier than playing the dating game. Men can pay for sex in a straight forward transaction, and they get what they want. There are also no emotional strings attached.

Having sex with prostitutes can be a thrilling and illicit experience for a man, which gives them a sense of power and control. Some experts argue that for certain men, the act of visiting a prostitute has become an extension of the high-adrenaline lifestyle commonplace today. For other men, the "cheapness" of the whole act is a turn-on for them.

If a man is in a relationship with someone and visits prostitutes, is it seen as cheating? Can a man declare that he didn't cheat because he has no emotional connection to the girl? Or is having sex with another person at any time cheating, whether there is an emotion connection or not?