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In response to: Surviving a Betrayal

Charlotte [Visitor] — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 11:42:54 +0000

No, I could not survive infidelity. I possibly may forgive but never forget. I would never trust that person again. I believe once a person cheats and you forgive him and continue in the same relationship, he will only cheat on you again. There really is no excuse for cheating. Everyone knows it is wrong. I wouldn't bother wasting my energy on someone who was that selfish, low in intelligence/wisdon and lack of morals. If you truly love and respect someone, you don't deceive and cheat on them.

In response to: "Too Broke to Split"

Detection Group [Member] — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 23:15:42 +0000

Thank for your comment Ross. Unfortunately your situation is becoming quite a common one. What is fortunate for you both though is the fact that you have discussed everything out on the table, and you are still best friends. There is no 'relationship model' that we all have to adhere to. Every relationship is unique and special in it's own way. What you both have is a relationship, and obviously a strong one which has a good foundation built 2 years ago after your discussion. Children are resilient. These days children are more exposed to the reality of relation breakdowns & marriage breakups. As long you show your children you love and respect them, and show them that you love and respect yourself, you're doing a great job!

In response to: "Too Broke to Split"

Ross [Visitor] — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 22:33:26 +0000

I have cheated on my wife and came clean. I was ok for about 7 years then cheated for 3 months with 3 other married woman. My wife and I are best Friends and have a great life and get on well. Ive been good for the 2 years since we sat down and talked it out. In the back of my mind I'm afraid perhaps she stays for the money (we have household income of about $300k) which makes me feel a bit like I trap her which I don't want to do, i feel sickly guilty all the time, If she would be happyer (she is happy) w/out me then thats ok too, we will both make the best of it either way, its the kids we worry about - no easy answer's

In response to: Wealthy Divorces

Detection Group [Member] — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 10:41:26 +0000

Dear Mans thoughts,

Thank you for your feedback. It is always good to hear both sides to a story. It sounds like you may have possibly gone through a messy divorce involving assets yourself, and I always feel terrible for anyone going through this process. Both the husband and the wife are affected in ways that can be emotionally and physically damaging.

I invite anyone who has any more thoughts on this topic to write in. Especially now that the new laws have changed for defacto relationships.

Detection Group Pty Ltd

In response to: Wealthy Divorces

Mans thoughts [Visitor] — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 14:53:27 +0000

This is the reason why men cheat. who would want a woman who is such a sneak and is out to get as much money from her hard working husband as she can.

Maybe when woamen start to work the hours men do and pay as many bills as the men do can they understand why most men who get divorced go straight to asia for sex and a new life ( at least for a few weeks)

Men are sick of the crap from women.

www.stickmanbangkok.com

In response to: "Too Broke to Split"

Detection Group [Member] — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 23:32:51 +0000

Hi Ian,

Thank you for your honest feedback. It must be an awful position to be in. It's so sad that because of financial reasons, some people can't truly do something to change an uncomfortable and/or unhappy situation. I can image that if must be like living in a jail with no escape. This will breed resentment and anger. I truly hope that either you both work through this, or your financial situation changes enough to allow what you both want to happen. As for the children, that's a tricky one. I have 2 young children and went through a separation/divorce. The kids have been happy throughout the transition. We checked in with a child psychologist every couple of months to check that we were doing everything right to protect the children's emotions, and we still continue to do that. Sometimes it's better for the children to see two happy separated parents, than two unhappy parents still together. We are role models for our children, and all we ever really want at the end, is for our children to grow up happy and secure. Good luck with the future Ian, I wish you every happiness.

In response to: "Too Broke to Split"

Ian Singer [Visitor] — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 05:24:59 +0000

I have thr reverse.
My wife has dated and slept with a younger man.
She now wants nothing sexual from me.

We stay together because of the kids and we cannot afford a divorce.

A living hell for me.

Ian

In response to: Private Investigator Services

Detection Group [Member] — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 06:14:15 +0000

Thank you John for your feedback. It's wonderful that you and your wife have such a secure and fulfilling marriage. As everyone knows,not every marriage is the same. They are all based on different levels of beliefs, rules, and standards. Within your marriage structure, your "playing" is obviously a decision that both you and your wife have made together and accept. It sounds like it suits both of you for different reasons. Under your personal circumstances, then yes, you do have an Affair Success Story. But not everyone who enters into marriage, goes into it with the belief, knowledge or acceptance that their partner will be involved with other people of a sexual or very intimate manner. The people who contact Detection Group and other private investigators, do so because they obviously didn't agree to that type of behaviour during their marriage/relationship. Some people find out the information about their partner and either choose to stay for whatever reasons, be it love, security, financial etc.. and other people use the evidence gained to leave their partner because they feel so violated that their written and/or verbal vowel that they took out together has been breached. Not to mention the emotion turmoil that follows. But I do congratulate you and your wife on your obviously happy marriage and wish you every success and happiness into the future.